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Do you recognize any of these methods or traits? Always looking for a compliment, showing off how much information they know. Something good happens to one person, the other person feels it should have been them. How about the game where you see who has the worst problems? Look at me, pity me, it’s all about me.

Well, I don’t know about you, however, I strongly believe that these are awful ways to make friends. I even know the odd person here and there that have one or two of these traits.

It’s not uncommon for people to speak to their friends in a way that is perhaps considered annoying. In the majority of cases, the person who is annoying isn’t even aware of it. I know I’m not perfect; one of my faults is that I have a habit of over-explaining things. This, at times, has caused people to feel that I thought they were clueless. When for a fact I don’t think that at all. I’m just not sure if they understood me or not.

So here is a sort of checklist to go over. Use it to see if there is a possibility that maybe you come off in a negative way or not. Also, I included alternative things you can work on so you can become an even better person. This way if you have none of the negative traits, you can still find an area or two to brush up on.

ALWAYS LOOKING FOR COMPLIMENTS
Stop being annoying by fishing for compliments. Asking if you are pretty, or do you like how I’m doing this.

Instead be content with who you are without gloating, and showing off. Show a little humility. Compliment others instead.

ALWAYS FLAUNTING YOUR KNOWLEDGE
Never be a know it all. People don’t want you trying to force your way of thinking into their lives. Especially if all you do is talk about yourself.

Take the time to listen to others. Ask questions, and try to better understand their point of view. This does not mean that you have to agree with it. Just be willing to listen.

IT’S NOT FAIR
Envy other people’s success? Make sure not to steal the spotlight from them. Take the time to honestly congratulate others for their successes. Be happy for them.

YESS IT’S ALL ABOUT YOU
Stop complaining about every little problem you come across. Nobody wants to listen to someone who does nothing but grump and growl about every little thing in life.

Practice smiling, When you see someone, make an effort to smile. Spread a little cheerfulness whenever and wherever you can.

HEY LOOK AT ME
Don’t go spreading gossip and saying negative things about others just to make yourself look good. Stop doing things for selfish reasons.

What you want to do is think of others and find ways you can make others happy. Give encouragement. Spend time with others to show how you appreciate them being your friend.

PITY ME PLEASE
Don’t be a stick in the mud. Keep yourself from thinking negative thoughts all the time. As often as you need to, let go of your negative thoughts.

Practice being excited about whatever it is you are doing. Be positive and cheerful. Find something good in every activity you’re involved with.

Now that you finished reading over the list. I recommend that you pick one area and practice this week using the suggestion that was provided. Which item to choose is up to you. Perhaps pick the easiest that way you will have the most success with it.

The great thing about the list is that even if you have none of the negatives, there is always room to improve. For example, I get grumpy and complain, so, therefore, I need to remember to work on that. When I catch myself getting frustrated with something, I’ll tell the person I’m talking to: Man these first-world problems can be so annoying. That usually puts a smile on our faces, because 90% of the time I’m complaining about something really not that important.

Tells us in the comments which one you are the best at. Yes I know, I’m asking you to brag. Just don’t brag about the fact that you don’t brag. That would sound silly. Until we put up the next post – Keep on going and keep on growing.

RAZZ