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The time we spend with others has a great influence on our well-being. While some friends, family, and casual acquaintance may bring us great joy, fill us with encouragement and give us a little boost of self-confidence and energy while we live our lives. There are others out there that seem to always drain us, let us down, leave us feeling worn out and not looking forward to the rest of our day.

Though it may not be 100% possible we need to try and avoid them. At the very least we need to find a practical way to deal with them so they don’t suck all our energy. Here is a brief list of types of toxic people you may have encountered and some ways to handle the situation.

The 1st Toxic Person is the Dramatizer

You know them. It’s that individual that blows the tiniest thing into a full over the top. They like to over exaggerate a little. Most times they appear it’s at a scheduled event of some kind. Whether work, party, dinner, etc … They tend to always be late due to something traumatic happening. They were so terrible sick, almost dying. Traffic was horrific, unbelievable. I’m sure you have seen this type before. The best you can do is to remain patient, breath, apologize for all the difficulty they had. Then, depending on the particular situation, advise them they need to text or call in the future so you know they are running behind but they’re still coming.

The 2nd Toxic type is the Blamer

This person tends to be mean in a sly way making you feel like you never get anything right. They will make snide remarks because it was not the way they wanted it. Making you feel guilty as if you didn’t try your best. This type is generally negative to everyone. So what you need to do is remind yourself of the fact that this person is pretty much negative to everyone. For a brief moment imagine you’re inside one of those big clear water walking balls. Imagine all the toxic negativity bouncing off the outside of it while you are protected on the inside. Be careful not to snicker out loud though if you imagine too clearly how it’s almost impossible to stand up inside one of those.

Now for the third type, the Boo-hooer

This person has to tell you how horrible their life is. Or every “I don’t know how to deal with them” situation with a friend or partner. Be warned it’s a trap. They do not want you to help them solve anything. They just want to complain and have someone feel sorry for them because they are always the victim. Simple tell them “I’m sorry to hear that. I don’t know what to tell you, hope you get it figured out.” Then move the conversation on to something else. If you can’t change the topic of the conversation then let them know you need to get going.

Fourth is Chuckles or Giggles, they never stop yapping

You can recognize them usually by their introduction. They will either have a joke or something funny to show or tell you. Along with that they are continuously talking or telling you their great adventures, dreams, or possibly their whole life story. You grow tired of waiting for an opportunity to say something. They generally don’t care how you feel. Some of them will invade your personal bubble, moving in closer as if to tell you something super important. Or while they are finishing what they are talking about they just walk away leaving you left standing or sitting there with the thought” ohhhh kay” Best thing to do if caught in the situation is to first remember, they likely don’t give two hoots what you think. Then secondly excuse yourself if possible. If not then tell yourself “okey dokey” and just don’t say a word. They tend to wrap up faster when you’re not giving any cues.

Last but not least the Bully

They are just plain mean, sour, with no concern for your feelings. They will say things that tend to linger in your mind. Sometimes even for days or longer. They are the most toxic and sometimes the most difficult to deal with. If at all possible get them out of your life. If that is not possible, for what ever reason, all I can say is try not to take it personally. I know, I know, it’s almost impossible not to feel offended. You need to see and realize this person is just bitter inside so they like being mean and hurtful. They’ve likely been deeply hurt themselves and you can’t fix them nor is it your job. So at least try to reduce the amount of time you are near them.

How do you handle toxic people in your life? Let us know in the comments

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